Never take things for granted

my 2 days leave

It is such a lesson to learn in this 2 days. I am staying with my friends daughter place. she is graduated with civil engineering. Her mum told me that, when she just graduated, she worked for a Malay boss. She promised to pay her RM 2.5 k per month. When coming to payment, she pay her only RM 6-700 per month. she worked for her for about 6 mouths. I also don't know why she continued to work without money. May be because she is a native. We are different people. Her father is a doctor, I am very show he knew what is best for her daughter

Don't take things for granted..

My friends are very blunt with her children. When we are inside the car, she bought a new car --RUSH, for her daughter.She told me is her first time in this new car.Her girl didn't put on her seat belt. She says to her daughter-- better use your seat belt, you don't bring trouble to me. I feel sort of hurt from her words. I am very sure this is how her girl feel.

My friend is very nagging. One night when her daughter come back from work. She nags so much , that I also feel that she is too much. She keeps going to her girl's room while she is sleeping. she will ask her to eat , to bath and many more. I feel bored. I am very sure this is how her girl feels.I always think to myself. If the children are not with us, are they the same? then leave them alone so that they grow at their own pace.If you keep telling them, they are bored with you. And they might hate you.I noticed that her daughter sometimes, node their head instead of talking. I think sure they feel bored .

Lie for good

So when my girl want to meet me, I have to make up story.Because I always tell my friends that my girl is in Ipoh. Or else if I say my girl in KL, and I want to stay with her, I feel shy. That is why I lie to her that my girl come to KL for a course. This is to ease my shy.

As a mother ,we have to lie many times to make things look OK to people.This is life.