paternal grandpaHe was a nice man. But he couldn't stand on his own. He had no balls of his own. He was controlled by his wife ,who is like a witch, if he didn't listen to her, she will cried whole night. I saw it with my own eyes!
When he got old, the old lady didn't treat him well.She used to scold him a lot. I pitied him sometimes. But he was just my in law! I couldn't say much ,because I am nobody in that family of the Tang dynasty!
One day,he fell ill. Nobody bring him to see a doctor.Everybody talked and talked and at the end pushed to us. I brought him to see a doctor in the government hospital where I worked last time.Actually he was sick enough to get admitted. But the doctor on duty said that I m capable to look after him at home.Well, I couldn't do anything! I accepted him to our home----to my room!well ,looking after an old sick man is not easy at all! I don't mind at all. After all ,I looked after people whom I don't even know !So there he stayed in our house till his last breathe.I send him to the hospital for admission, when he was more sick, using an ambulance, all by myself. The old lady was at our house , She didn't follow us. She went home to Bintangor.She always say, send the old man to hospital--the nurses in the hospital will change him when he pee and pass motion. In her eyes, the nurses are the people who are maids to change pee and motion only!
While in our house , I always cooked porridge for him. I always put in lots of things so that the porridge taste very nice. I remembered one day the old man told me that I cooked delicious porridge!While he was with us , he motion on the bed, the floor and sometimes outside the toilet bowl!the whole house smell of farces.
The old man stayed in the hospital for 8 days before he took his last breathe. While in the hospital , the Tang family used to say --oh ,ah kee wife (that is me) inside hospital , you all no need to look after the old man. Well my stand is always the same--that is people I don't even know , I look after, So it is OK for me.
Whenever their family go to hospital, they check one thing---that is open up the sarong and see if the old man pee or pass motion. If wet , they all say one word , nurse change him!
He died of septicaemia with multiple organs failure.
After funeral, I heard something ridiculous! "You kill dad" yeah, why say things like that!
I was really shocked when hearing such a comment! The old lady , the youngest sister in law---treat me very badly! they see me transparent . they talk to me as if I m nobody to them. They treat me worse than an animal outside their house! many times ,dad quarrel with me many times because of that issue. I nearly end up in a divorce!
His address is up the main road to the cemetery--
3rd mile
Bintangor,
No. 4 ,
4Th raw
to the left
RIP old grandpa. Diana can find the place.
The paternal grandma
When we went for Chin Ming on April this year, I noticed the old lady walking unsteady on flat ground. I didn't say anything till we came back to Kuching.
When we were in Indonesia, the elder brother rang to dad, saying that old lady is ill.So dad is so anxious to go back to Bintangor!
Dad went back since 21/5/2010 till now(today is 8/6/2010). 2 days ago, dad ask me to take leave to go home to make some decision. I refuse.I told dad that she is their mother and they have to come out with something . Not me! I "m to be blame again!
I'm not wrong! today dad grumble to me saying that his mum everyday scold him.Everyday tell him --- Ah hing anak so pandai, their cucu , the head so big--next time like ah hing ....jadi rich people, ah kong anak very pandai...bla..bla...
dad hate her very much. He wants to come home. Home is waiting for you!
I still remembered ,when the old lady got admitted years back, when my turn to look after her in hospital, if I sat this side of the bed, she turned to the other side. It is OK for me, I talk to my colleague while my turn to look after her .I told dad, if she don't like you, your heart give to her to eat , she will not appreciate also . So that is life. let those whom she favors to look after her for ever and ever!
