soft skills......

Chief matron sms me yesterday.She asks if I have gone for soft skill in KL. I wander why? May be she want to send me there. I don't feel like to go there.Well now I am very soft now.
I am very good to people. A lot of people come to me for moral support.I am always by their side. They all know about it.And I also very helpful to people as well.
yesterday been a hard day. Go for dialogue session. 830 am till 1130am. I am over hanger . When I eat , I have epigastric pain for the whole day.Remember , you all up there, never over starve yourself. Actually ,I can't go out from the hall.

Wedding dinner..

Last night I went for a wedding dinner. Our neighbour got married. Ha..ha... the bride's name is Nathalie ( big breast) Nong hate that name a lot.
I felt so bad yesterday.Early morning I opened the gate and knocked some one's Hulux outside our gate. I thought the Hulux is far enough for me to open the gate! OMG ,luckily I am in time to close the gate on time before a bad knock.
I went to the dinner venue around 615pm. We walked around the shopping lots around that area. Actually it is quite nice place to shop.
The dinner consisted of the following dishes,
1.prawn salad combinations
2.sharks' fin soup with dried seafood
3.braised trotter with bun
4.steamed tilapia with soya sauce
5.stewed duck with sea cucumber
6.prawn ball & fresh scallops with vegetables
7.'tangui' chicken
8.mixed fruits platter

The names are so beautiful, but the food is not so nice.Yesterday is a good day for marriage. I saw so many couples. the restaurants are so full.gtg

Life....

home life....

Many pots were burnt since the day we were born.No exception now! Our pot was on fire again today!So smelly until now! OMG! DD sms me quite early in the morning to tell me. I am not surprised at all because it happened many times already.I think it is the pork inside the pot that made the smell to be there until now! DD was quite angry because she has to wash up the mess.

I remembered the 1st time, when our pot was on fire! really on fire! I was not kidding!That time when jia was may be 2 years old. While cooking something in a pot , he went to town.Our housemate were also not in the house. Our upstairs neighbour spray water through the window to the stove to put off the fire. OMG! luckily nothing happened that time. And again and again....Te kettle was just burned the other day. Now the AMC pot again.The door had a reminder... off light and fire before going out.DD gets so angry, she writes some more words onto the paper to remind again. I don't know what will be burn next round.

True Stories..

Dead man...

It happened in the 1st class ward. A man suffering from cancer passed away .The 2 nurses and the attendant were doing the last office.The night nursing sister came to do her round. She commented near the corpse...that is why he die like that...when young, go with so many girls..bla .. bla ... the corpse made a Coop sound.The 3 of them were very scared.The Senior nurse apologised to the corpse and say good words to him. The other 2 didn't say a word. The 2 who kept quiet, got sick after the last office. The senior nurse was ok

Smell of drowned dead body..

My colleague packed her car near the mortuary when she came to work. She was on afternoon shift. When she went home, it was nearly 10 pm. She felt a gush of cold air as she drove her car even if her car was tightly closed.Then she could smell drowned dead body! She said verses of Koran words. She prayed and prayed as she drove.She was so scared that she didn't even dared to turned back. She said things like ...don't harm me ,I didn't do anything bad to you, you please leave me alone, you please go to somewhere to join your friend.......

when she drove by the cemetery, the smell disappeared.She reached home ..speechless... and her whole body smell of dead body....She bathed and bathed to get the smell to go off. After that, she never dare to pack her car near the mortuary.

Bangau oh bangau..

Bangau oh bangau...

Bangau oh bangau kenapa engkau kurus?
Macam mana aku tak kurus ikan tidak timbul
Ikan oh ikan kenapa engkau tak timbul?
Macam mana aku tak timbul rumput panjang sangat

Rumput oh rumput mengapa panjang sangat?
Macam mana aku tak panjang kerbau tak makan aku
kerbau oh kerbau kenapa tak makan aku?
Macam mana aku tak makan perut aku sakit

Perut oh perut kenapa engkau sakit?
Macam mana aku tak sakit makan nasi mentah.
Nasi oh nasi mengapa engkau mentah?
Macam mana aku tak mentah kayu api basah.

Kayu oh kayu kenapa engkau basah?
Macam mana aku tak basah hujan timpa aku
Hujan oh hujan kenapa engkau turun?
Macam mana aku tak turun katak panggil aku

Katak oh katak kenapa engkau panggil hujan?
Macam mana aku tak panggil hujan ular nak makan aku
Ular oh ular kenapa nak makan katak?
Macam mana aku tak makan memang makanan aku

The story goes on and on...
one blaming each other.

The moral of the story is don't blame people
Look at yourself first before you talk about other people

If you point one finger to people
3 bounce back to you, yourself.

I want all of you to learn this story and remember all the time.

N.U.T.S.

21/11/2008

Flight at 9:15am.Wait for quite a while in the airport.Reached LCCT( low cost carrier terminal) around 11am.Then we go to the place nearby to eat our launch.Ha .... nobody can guess whom I met on the way there? Our neighbour from Sarikei!

We ate then we took a taxi to our hotel.To my surprise,the taxi driver didn't quite know the place .If it is for me I will ask the driver to ask his colleague to find out.But my two friends quarrel with him in his taxi! I kept quiet . Once I was in the taxi while came back from Sarikei to Kuching. The taxi driver had 3 customers in the same trip. Then i ask him if he can less me a bit or not. after that we talk some more, I forgot exactly what I talked and he told me to get out from his taxi. I am so scared. I never met such a bad tempered driver before. While as the other driver I met would always tell me, I less you a bit because I carried many passengers. Actually I am very scared to be alone in stranger 's car. That's why I had that uncle Voon to be my regular taxi driver.Do you realised that Uncle Voon is a bit considerate and a nice man? I met uncle Voon when he brought me to airport early morning.at the Sungei Maong traffic light, he was caught by the police.The police said that he drove pass the red light. While as I was observant to see that it was green light already.OMG!everybody argued and argued.Than i said I don't have time.I would be late for the plane!Than the police gave him a' saman' and he was fined! I am very unhappy about it and I rang to the DAP Y.B. to make a complaint. I don't know the story after that. I felt very pity to Mr, Voon. That is why I always use his taxi.

when reached the hotel, we didn't know that we have to wait for 3 pm to check in. So we took a taxi to shopping mall 1st. Till late evening, we came bake to the hotel. The room they arranged for us was so far away from the main building. we walked may be 5oo metres away to get there.OMG! the hotel is NUTS.It was such a dirty and filthy place! The room was smelly and dirty!Everything were not OK. We complained and the management don't bother much.This was the lousiest hotel I ever stay in my life! Well it was all over, I should forget about the whole thing.

The 2nd and 3rd days were the days to distress ourselves. After we complained to the management, they conpensate us with free breakfast and launch.gtg

Life ahead...

Tomorrow go to KL for 'Passion in nursing', in Shah Alam. Hope I will like it. We need CPD (continuous professional development) points ; matron--35-40 points; SRN--25-30 points; for nursing licence each year. If no CPD points, we will not be given the license. Then we can not practice nursing. That is our responsibility to obtain enough CPD points each year.

Learning hokien....

DD is learning Hokien from me and laughing away because her tune is very funny. That is how you learn. If you are scared to open your mouth, then you can never learn. I speak Iban to my patients, they all feel so happy, because someone can speak their language. I used to hug them, they feel so happy.

I still remembered how I learned how to speak other languages when I first go out to work.I brought a note book and tried to write each word I learned in the note book . than I start to practise what I have learned. We then try to speak in a sen tenses.Practise make one perfect.We all laugh and have fun together.That is how we learn together.It is real fun.we really enjoy it.That was our training time. Now I can speak many languages.----Chinese, Mandarin,Foochow, Hokien, Malay,Iban,and a few words of many other dialects.Praise the Load.

people 's own life...

Whole day meeting

KKM--kementerain kuat mesuyuarat

Our mentality is as such. This is what we are. Meeting whole day long, the end result is a bit only.We love that type of life.Worst still, someone love to go for all type of courses, always away from work place. No need to work. The work leave to the others to do.If someone ask, why this thing not done---easy to answer... I am away.... I am not around during that time. I read the early newspaper, the University of Malaya (M U) was grated even lower than Thailand, Indonesia, Philippines Univercities. Quite shameful actually. Last time ,if someone graduated from MU, the family will be so proud. Because, MU was world grated within 100 universities.But now we are within 500 only! OMG... And yet the principal have so many excuses ...Shame...Shame...

DD---hairdresser soon...

DD went for her first barbar class yesterday.She quite enjoy it. But she say, very tired.She bought her own scissors, doll with hair and she start her lesson yesterday. I really hope she will enjoy the course. If not for anything, but at least she knows how to take care of her own hair. That is the gese of it. The whole course is only 1k plus. And she will be certified a certificate! I love that! Next time she can cut me and daddy's hair.

New colleage..

A new friend joined us yesterday. They are different people. She just trasfered to KL last year. Now she come back. The 'skin ' people are different. May be they come back for something! The high post are waiting for them! They don't have to be smart to become big boss. That is our country!

Pretending....

Life is full of pretening.That is why the word 'pretend' come about.Our ancensters already know that life is full of pretenting.Sometimes you have to pretend to be good and sometimes bad( not always)

There is someone who can pretend so well.In front of you, she can be somebody great, but actually , she is someone real bad.I come across one colleague,when she see the superior coming, she pretend to work hard.But actually she is NUTS.I hate this type of people.The other day ,this lady come to me,telling me many things about herselve. I don't

making "kiaw"

In work place for gotong royong, from 10.49 am till now. Feel tired. Dad go to fetch DD in the morning. I make ' kiaw' today. yummy.....D has finished her foundation. Go for her degree next year. And her allowance increase next semester. She become rich again next year. That girl can keep money. Good girl .

I want jia to go for scanning again .See if the polyp is bigger or not. Haven't talk to her yet.
gtg

counselling...

One staff come to me telling me she has migraine. I dug out her family problem.She tell me about her brother.Her mom passed away when her brother was 16 years old. Ever since the boy became 'unmanageable'. Go out with gangs , refuse to study, and his high school result is not to standard.She enrolled him to a vocational school. And he came out from the school after 3 months. cos he said that he doesn't like the school. He said that it is not what he wants. Young people never like anything.To me they only want enjoyment, play , eat, enjoy, join the gang,no need to work, ask for money. In their mind, they don't know what is tomorrow. They don't care.


I cried after listening to her story. Last time I didn't go to elsewhere to work cos I think of my children. If I go maybe my children like that....

Interesting news....

Yesterday I already hear funny stories about something. But I just keep to myself. I keep thinking last night, why ? why?.......

So this morning when I come to work, I interview another person to confirm the situation. And I interview our other colleage as well.

Ha.... something funny going on! One friend of ours complained the other one ,that he is very bad.Now I know why she complained. Once ,she wanted to hook him, in vain, so she took revenge. Or my gosh, it is so difficult to manage people.The lady friend ,very funny,cry and tell people that he is a bad gal. When I listened to both side stories, now I know who exactly is the bad gal. Human being are the bad people!

Early morning ,I heard another funny story.My friend tell me that yesterday , she was called up by our boss. Shouted to her ,why her staffs all want to get out from her department . She answered, she don't care, who want to get out ,do so. I come to know that our boss is getting funny each day. She tell you funny thing that is not true......great liar......

Situations are getting more tense each day. None of us want to go to main office now. We go there just to settle something urgent.

Talked to our ex-colleage just now. He is getting his pension soon. He say ,it is very sad to see our workers getting more and more lazy each day. I tell him ,wait for another few more years, nobody know us when we come to hospital. It is true. The younger generations, don't care anymore. Their mentality is work for money. They have no more soft skills. they don't treat mankind as humans.

Dad see Dr this morning, Dr asked if he is ok. Dr tell him not to eat a lot of carbohydrate food. I don't know what is inside his mind. Wait and see.

A friend of ours gone for course. She SMS the other friend that it is very boring. Hmmmm every now and then go for courses, for what? I also don't know. Everything boleh. Hidup.. mati... curi.. pukul.. semua boleh.

Everyday life.....

Cardiac clinic appointment

10/11/2008 is dad 's clinic apt date. I forgot about it because may be I was too busy lately and also I am getting old. Actually I wrote the date on the board at work place. Everyday I see but I didn't pay attention. So near yet so far. Ha.....
So tell him to fast overnight for blood taking of fasting lipid profile, blood sugar, BUSE, FBS, serum creatinine. He grumble so much last night. ....no need to take medication.... don't want to see Dr. blah blah.....What is for me? nothing. Do everything for him , only forget once and he grumble so much. That is this man.
But anyway ,I see that a man like that will always live long life. Because he only say, say, but deep inside him ,he really take care of himselve.I will bring him to see Dr tomorrow.


The 2 balls....

He used to forgot something. Even he will forgot to take out the key from the car. I have to send the key to Bintangor one time for his locked car! If the 2 balls were not attached, there would get loss in space!


The pension card..

One day I ask him ,where is his pension card? That is important, because that is his identification after pension. He searched everywhere for it. Hai ya.....


over grown....

My colleague keep asking me, why I can stay slim and firmed.I told them not to eat so much of the carbohydrate food. They told me that they can't stand being hungry. Well ,we don't have to starve. Just eat the usual way but less carbohydrate intake. Eat more vegetables and fruits.But don't take a lot of rich tip bids.We eat to live and not live to eat. That is to say, we eat just enough to keep life going. No need to eat extra. The extra you eat is going to become the fat in your body. At the end of the day, your heart can't stand the extra load. That is why heart problem sets in. Always remember....EAT TO LIVE AND NOT LIVE TO EAT. keep your body shape for ever fit and healthy.

unusual things...

Funny things...
Have meeting this afternoon. It says those staff who are for special award must have good characteristic of good rapport, must know how to do certain things.One part amuse me.... You must know how to pick up rubbish from the floor. Or my gosh, this is part of everyday life. what are we ,Malaysian? Quite shameful man.

Lie....
I already say earlier, people who lie get lots of thing in life. People can recommend themselves for some form of award quietly, and tell others that they are clever people. But actually they know NUTS.Malaysians are like that. That is why I hate people like that. But whatever it is, I earn my living to feed my members at home.They are my dearest people.Our specialist one day tell me, when you get sick, your family are the one with you. I tell him that it is true.

Feel really touched...

DD came back yesterday after her happy hour at school. Then she went back to school again around 8 pm. During the few hours at home ,she let me saw a great show which she download from her friend.

Money not enough --- 2 .

Everybody must see.. It is such a sad and real story.I think it is happening everywhere and everyday.You all see for yourself. I drop tears many times.When you all are small, the old forks look after you all so passionately. When they grow old, you know how the story goes.

DD had seen the story. She want me to see.We must learn something from there.

We went to 100% store yesterday. Buy quite a lot of things.Everything increase price. I am very careful in choosing what to buy. Don't know what will be out the shelf tomorrow. I always remind myself,how much poisons have we take?

Happy hour....

Friday...
Today is Friday.Long lunch hour. work from 8am to 11:50am then start work at 2:15 to 5pm. Work only 6 .5 hours today.After the routine work,I stay in the office. Do some returns and some reports.Then the cleaner woman come to give me some rambutan fruits.I use to be very good to them. I always give them some food to eat. Give them little gifts. That's why they are good to me also. Whenever I ask them to do something, they will come straight away. One day, I feel ill.They massage for me.People always say,a friend in need is a friend indeed. I also always make friend with low income group of people.Imagine , without a cleaner or a sweeper, what will it be like? We are all important people in the organisation.Be it Dr, nurse, or a cleaner.We are in the team.Our objective in life, is to earn money home to feed the family

Something nice....

Whatever your cross,
whatever your pain,
there will always be sunshine,
after the rain....

Perhaps you may stumble,
perhaps even fall,
But God's always ready,
To answer your call.....

He knows every heartache,
sees every tear,
A word from His lips,
can calm every fear....

Your sorrows may linger,
throughout the night,
But suddenly vanish,
in dawn's early light......

The Savior is waiting,
somewhere above,
To give you His grace,
and send you His love...

whatever your cross,
whatever your pain,
'God always sends rainbows....
after the rain....'



Only we can be us and only you, you.

No one can think,
breathe,
feel,
see
experience
love or
die
for anyone of us
Inside we are what we are.

We all come into life
without a map,
an operating manual, or
a definition of ourselves,
other than male or female.

It is up to us to discover
who we are and who we can be.
Life treats you as you treat life.

----Mark Victor Hanser et al



The 10 commandments of success:-

1. speak to people
There is nothing as nice as a cheerful greeting.

2.Smile
It takes 72 muscles to frown, and only 14 to smile

3.Call people by name
Everyone is pleased when you remember their names.

4.Be friendly and helpful, and other will respond in like manners.

5.Speak and act.
as if everything you do were a genuine pleasure.

6.Be genuinely..........
interested in people.

7.Be generous...... with praise ;
cautious with criticism.

8.Be considerate.
with the feelings of others,it will be appreciated.

9.Be thoughtful.
of the opinions of others.
There are 3 sides to any contraversy.....
yours, the other persons and the right one

10.Be willing....
to give service,what counts most in life is what you do for others.


Remerber that when you are kind to another person,
both that person's life and yours are enriched.




The seven wonders of the world.
1. to touch
2.to taste
3.to see
4.tohear
5.to run
6.to laugh &
7.to love




Eight gifts that do not cost a cent.

1. The gift of listening
But you must really listen.No interrupting, no day dreaming,
no planing your response.JUST LISTENING.

2. The gift of affection.
Be generous with appropriate hugs,kisses,pats on the back and holds.
Let these small actions demonstrate the love you have for family and friends.

3. The gift of laughter.
Clip cartoons...share articles, and funny stories. Your gift will say
"I love to laugh with you"

4. The gift of a written note.
It can be a simple " Thanks for the help"note or a full sonnet.
A brief hand written note may be remembered for a lifetime and may even change a life.

5. The gift of a compliment.
A simple and sincere " You look great in red"," you did a supper job, " That was a wonderful
meal" can make someone's day.

6. The gift of a favor.
Everyday go out of your way to do something kind.

7. the gift of solitude.
There are times when we want nothing better than to be left alone.Be sensitive to those
times and give the gift of solitude to others.

8. The gift of a cheerful disposition.
The easiest way to feel good is to extent a kind word to someone. Really it is not that hard to say.....Hello or Thank you.

A lot to learn...

Lots of spelling mistakes..

Read through my own blog. I find a lot of spelling mistakes. Am I growing old? Forgetting so many words? My gosh! I must try harder.When I want to write something, suddenly I cant spell out the exact word that I want. My mind is so blank when I think hard. woh loa......scary to grow old.A friend of mine, once said that she is scared to grow old. Now I know exactly what she meant.But I have tried very hard not to behave old. I go with young people and I talk to them.I behave like one of them....Ha ... GOK...what it is all about.


lend my shoulder...

One day ,a junior Dr felt so down. I called her to a corner and counseling her. She cried. After she cried ,she felt better.Today ,I go to follow Dr. round. There is another junior Dr feel like crying.I can see from her face.I told her to stay calm. And I give her some advice.I hope that she will be OK.


Hand washing ...

Is it so hard to wash your two hands? I go round to see if people wash their two hands. I keep washing my hands hoping the other will follow. But in vain. I still have to whisper into people s ears reminding them to wash hands. Even with our enforcement of collecting RM 1 for not washing hands, they still don't follow.I have even collected money from one of the Dr for not washing hands. It seems they don't bother much. Last week, I asked one of our specialist why he didn't wash his hands. He said, if I am around, then he wash,if not he will skip hand washing. My GOD.... life is tough. As if wash hands for me..

Do no harm...

If you don't know how and what to do ....ask and ask.. do no harm to mankind.And also do no harm to yourself. Don't drink until mabok, each time you harm yourself, there is always a damage done to yourself

Facts of life...

People like to lie..

Colleague of mine like to bluff and to tell lies. The European will tell 3000 lies to their children in their life time.E.g.... the Santa Claus don't give presents to bad gals...etc...
Is it good to tell lies? GOK....That lady in our organisation even use people s project to become hers for her master program! And she has a master degree!----cut and paste lah of course!
At work, people s projects will become hers. She always say I do this and I do that. But she do NUTS---- Ha.... IE not up to standards.
The pharmacy colleague of mine has done a project. She ask for it and claim that it is her project.
I ask my colleague ....why you give her? She say ,never mind lah... my gosh!
So many pieces of work are done by us. She will tell our director that it was done by her.But now we know that a lot of people don't trust her. It is only a matter of time. GOD will reveal everything. That s Malaysia boleh! Now that she want to do PhD..... copy who ? don't know...
Is life good like that? The other day ,my friend tell me.There is the neighbour of hers, together with her grandson, steal her backyard rambutan fruits. Oh ..my gosh... that is the teaching..
So you know lah, what is best to do...


cry,,, cry,,, cry,,

when someone want to correct your mistakes, you should be very grateful to say thank you! but this stupid girl know how to cry only. I hate people crying.... hate so very much.
My children ,when cry,I will ask them to stop crying. If not, I will beat them further. So my children all know that, if they have to cry, they will cover their mouth with a pillow or a piece of cloth or towel and cry behind the door.


stubborn.......

I also hate people who are stubborn.. Tell her once.. still repeat the same mistakes... hate... so much

Many lessons learned....

Poor Internet connection........

Past few days the lines is not good. We cannot get connected. Today only they found out that the modem is at fault. They have changed to a new one. yahoo... blog again..


Professor talk on ...change--we need; change.. we must...

Yesterday, our prof. talk on --- we must change...
With our mentality, I am quite doubtful if we can make it. People are complacent , refuse changes--- prefer to stay in the cocoon.Anyway it is very encouraging talk.


Collecting wet clothing..
.
Day before yesterday, when I went home from work,I noticed our bachelor neighbour collect clothing in the rain. I smiled to myself. There was a story behind it. Years ago, when DD was still in primary 2. One day, I was working 8-4:15pm. I dried our clothing outside the veranda before I went to work. The sun was so good and the clothing were all dry. There came the rain just before the office hour was over. When I reached home, the clothing were still on the lines. I got very angry, and scolded everybody at home. Then DD went and collected the wet cloths and quietly she put them in a pail. She didn't say a word. But I saw all what she did.
I keep quiet after that.But still pull long face. She is so smart---- has her own philosophy. She came to me when I was less angry. She said, mom ..... took it as if we were all not at home. I felt so bad when I heard what she had said to me. Her mind can be so opened. Why mine is so narrow? After that when the cloths are wet I never want to say anything. Let it be... let it be...
I learn a great lesson from her. What for want to get angry anyhow? Life is like that.


A lesson learned from Nong....

dad and me always quarrel over dad s saham.
Nong said one day to me ..mom.. you get married to dad, is your own choice. No need to quarrel everyday. May be this is true.


From jia and BB

When they were in form one and form three, one day they told me.. mom you always say that we are stupid, then we become stupid.. then we are stupid.True also, we must be able to encourage them instead of condemning. I learned many lessons from my juniors. that is life.gtg

Memories.......

Aerobics..

Yesterday I join the church dancing class, nothing is free in this world, but this one is free. I call it aerobics because I don't know how to dance. I just want to sweat myself .We dance for nearly 2 hours. That is enough for me.Actually it is quite nice.

Sunday market..

..
Went to Sunday market and buy a lime tree . we plant a lime tree near the guava tree. It already got fruit on its tree. Lately we always make lime juice to drink. It is soothing to drink on a hot day when it is drank icy cold. I love it. So kids when next time, when I cant move, you know what I want. But if you offer me everyday, I died also lah! gtg